Extent to which we should give importance to others

To what extent should we give importance to what others say in our life?

You like to see a movie, then you look up the reviews and make a decision.
Which is absolutely fine, so long as you can see what matches with your likings and interest and make a choice.

You like to cook something, and you ask everyone, what they care to eat.

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After working hard in making a dinner, if you find that people do not care what you make, they like to eat food from outside, and your old pattern of finding out what they want to eat fetches no interest from any of them. Where does this lead to? Sometimes you may get frustrated that the food in the fridge is accumulating, and except for yourself, no one in the family has any interest in consuming it, and you end up in eating for the entire week all three times, four courses of what you prepared for all others also to join you. So, there comes a point in your life, where you would want to make just enough for one meal for all or may be, you will have to to pass it.

It will be more than likely that you will pass it over time because there are no takers and you would not want to be a walking storehouse or dumpster.

Some people spend their entire life in putting others’ interests ahead of them.

Their spouse may be someone who likes to sit in front of TV and keep watching all the serials or all the movies, and now that Netflix is around,  they will even get to watch the older episodes of what they may have missed before.

While they want to go around and meet people or see places, year after year they have to be put up with their life partner, who is neglecting them, may be even harassing them, paying no interest to what they say or do  or create, all in all, they are living under one roof in their own worlds, while one of them is hoping, a day things may change, may be close by, only it never happens.

We still put up with such people, thinking that a known devil is better than an unknown devil.

You do that to the routes you take while driving, to keep up appearances, and a major thing, such as life and people who you come across in life.

For years, despite rough times, you hope one day you would go around, visit nice places, enjoy, have fun times, meet relatives and friends or even as much as or as simple as go to the temple together.

They nurture burning agonies with them, instead of pleasing words, or , a soothing touch.

Never the less, life goes on, after mid summer afternoons evening drizzles arrive and mother earth’s fragrances come out touching your soul and then the beautiful moonlight and sand dunes and palm trees and jasmines, all arrive.

Why is there such a change all of a sudden?

Because human relations are the basic DNA in a basic unit of the society, which is a family, and you do not have to live with grudges towards your spouse, and after all when you are a basic unit, you will enjoy life, and take things in control, by not shouting, instead taking your I Pad or pen or paper  and pouring all your thoughts.

As you do it, you analyze your attitudes and then it s like fresh outlook at things either one of you may have done or are going through.

After all what is a marriage with no adjustments?

Won’t you?

I know!